January 6, 2007


Filed under: Doodles, Blabs and Rants — didee @ 6:59 am

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat
not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow
not in each other’s shadow.

i got the quote above from Kahlil Gibran in one of my emails. (See! There are treasures to find amongst those non-project related emails! heheheh…)

At first, i thought hmmm…. doesn’t loving someone mean being one with someone? Doesn’t commitment includes personal sacrifices for the other? And then, from whatever experiences i’ve had in life and love (naks! meager experience that is ehehe), i realized that the excerpt from the quote does hold true. Eventhough it seems that loving is losing yourself for and to the other, you don’t have to lose who you are in doing so.

Confusing? Yea, I guess in a way. Love has its own confusing mysteries which even makes it more delectable to taste. Losing yourself yet not losing who you are. How can that be? For me, losing yourself is being selfless and taking into consideration the other person. But losing who you are is surrendering the identity that defines you uniquely. And there can only be one you. One is and should be love for who she/he is, and not who she/he will become once in the relationship. Love is after all the union of two hearts, two individuals, two unique entities that inspite of differences still finds a ground for harmony. I’ve always believed that to be in a healthy relationship there is bringing out of the best in yourself and from the other person. Enhancing what makes you beautifully you and discovering the beauty from the other. It is finding that inner strength in you to add to the strength of the other person. This is what enables you to be strong. It is loving yourself and appreciating yourself more and seeing yourself the way the other person sees you. It is what enables you to love. As one person who is special to me once said, i should love myself more than anything else, next to God. Because one can never give what one never has. If loving someone makes you deteriorate as a person, then that kind of love is a poison which will slowly kill you. And i doubt if you coul call that love at all.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

It is once said that the greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. Nothing beats being loved in return by someone you love. And as easily as some people take it, commitment is not a game that anyone should play so recklessly. It’s more than just the perks and fancy of being in a relationship. It’s a whole lot of adjustments and sacrifices. We can’t even understand our own heart at times, much less take control over it. How much more holding someone elses. Someone more trustworthy than our feeble hands can hold both hearts in deepest care. His hand is more gentler and a lot more experienced. And that thought alone makes a whole lot of difference.

Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.

This is my favorite line of all. I am me. You are you. And yet together a beautiful music can be made. And Love after all is the masterpiece that the Great Artist above had ever composed.

I hope i had been and am a person who has brought out the best not only from my special someone but to some of the people around me. This perhaps is, and will be, my greatest legacy, if ever.

To a dear friend who thinks that love had played its mean joke at her:
If your heart tells you to fight, then do so. Give it your best shot. But if the point comes that you feel like a doormat and you lose the things that keeps you together, then maybe that battle is not for you to fight. You’ve proven yourself wrong when you once said that you don’t know how to love. Never forget that you are worth it all.


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